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is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do
for themselves that will make them successful human beings."
honor our mothers by celebrating Mother's Day and my hope is that this
is a joy-filled experience for everyone. Julia Ward Howe was the
first to proclaim Mother's Day in 1870. Her Mother's Day Proclamation
was a pacifist reaction to the American Civil War and the
Franco-Prussian War. The modern holiday of Mother's Day was first
celebrated in 1908, when Anna Jarvis held a memorial for her mother in
America. She then began a campaign to make "Mother's Day" a
recognized holiday in the United States. Although she was successful in
1914, she was already disappointed with its commercialization by the
1920s. Jarvis' holiday was adopted by other countries and it's now
celebrated all over the world.
But, for many people Mother's Day brings up issues that they struggle
with. I came across an article in Psychology Today, written by F.
Diane Barth, LCSW, where she writes: "Like
almost all of my clients with families, Kay was trying to do everything
right as a parent, trying, as another client put it, not to do to her
youngsters what her parents had done to her." As Ms.
Barth further explains in the article, so many people expect their
parents, in an idealized way, to be perfect. When this idealized
perfection is not experienced, or sometimes even destroyed, guilt and
blame begin to form in the minds of children and for some continue to be
felt into their adult life.
It is a pervasive attitude that is revealed to
psychologists and to others in the healing professions; "blame the
drama on mama." It has been my experience that this
"blame" on the mother, is far more prevalent than people
blaming the father for why their lives have been difficult.
Intelligent people who have realized great success in their lives still
hold the idea in their minds that if only their mothers had been a more
"perfect mom" their lives would be so much better. But,
we know that there is no "perfect mom" only women who do their
best to be a mother to their children. And for some mothers, the
experience isn't all that they had hoped it would be. And for
others, it is the most fulfilling experience of their life. And
then there are some women who feel that because they chose not to have
children, or couldn't have children, that people see them as less
important than mothers. Yet, we know that in truth this can never
be so. We are all equally important in our experience of life ...
there is no lesser or greater.
Recently there have been discussions in the
U.S. on "stay at home moms" versus "working mothers"
and the values that are associated with both. Like so many things
that we find in the world, people look to "labels" or
"concepts" rather than realize that in this unique expression
of Life that we are, every mother, lives to the awareness within their
own consciousness of who they are and what their idea of themselves
happens to be ... and this changes, and changes often. Labels like
"working mom" or "stay at home mom" are just that,
labels. No one is trapped in a "limited" idea of who
they are, unless it is of their own choosing. Mothers, like
everyone else, have more than one desire and more than one purpose in
In legitimate spiritual literature and
Holy Writings, being a "mother" is considered a position of
honor and someone to be honored and respected ... "honor thy father
and thy mother ... " we read in the Ten Commandments. And it
is not of little consequence that Jesus sought to insure that His mother
was to be taken care of even though He Himself was suffering horribly
physically and most likely mentally too before being crucified on a
cross. As we honor our mothers and seek to insure that rather than
expecting our mother to be the "perfect mom", instead we seek
to be a more perfect son or daughter, we shall be living in tune with
the Infinite Love that gave our mother the desire to give birth to us.
Our mothers chose to be an instrument of the Divine Spirit that brought
us into this world. This we know as the truth, for we are the
living proof that this is so.
there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother, and his mother's sister,
Mary the wife of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus therefore saw
his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto
his mother, Woman, behold thy son! Then saith he to the disciple, Behold
thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home."
of John 19:25-27, The Holy Bible
Jesus' words to the disciple that He loved,
reveals to each of us the way in which we should care for our mothers.
There is a bond between mother and child that is stronger than any other
bond we may form in life; husbands, wives, brothers and sisters, friends
... all of these bonds may be strong but the bond with our mother is
even stronger still, for it was formed in the Spirit. Most often
when our relationship with our mother is one of discord or apathetic,
other areas of our life contain issues that require healing. And
many a marriage is turbulent when either spouse feels apathy or
resentment towards the mother of their husband or wife ... and this
applies to same-sex marriages as well.
My mother gave life to twelve of us;
seven girls, five boys. She was the glue that kept us all together
after my father made his transition in 1980. It is difficult for
most people to imagine a woman consenting to have twelve children, but
my mother and father agreed on this number of children and twelve is
what they had. My mother was a "stay at home mom" but at
no time did she ever tell my sisters this should be their choice too.
More often than not my mother could be heard to tell her children that
they could do anything they wanted to do if they wanted it enough.
My mother was not overly religious, but she had a living faith that
sustained her through many of the struggles involved in raising twelve
children on a farm in Missouri. She would gather us all around and
read passages from the Holy Bible to us on Sunday afternoons and she
would read Ann Landers' advice column to us through the week. We
had good times and troubling times, but we made it through it all as a
family. It was never a question as to whether or not she was a
"perfect mom" but rather, how very blessed we were to have her
as our mother.
With a broader world-view, it did not take long
for me to realize that not all mothers were like mine. Yet, I know
and accept that "a more perfect mother" than the mother that
is ours does not exist. Our mother is/was the right and perfect
mother for us. This is a truth that will have many who struggle
with spiritual consciousness to believe and accept, but it is the truth
nonetheless. To believe otherwise would be to believe that G-d is
present for some and not for others ... that G-d blesses some but not
others ... or worst yet, that G-d is a god of reward and punishment.
These can never be the truth. We may never in this lifetime
understand why we have had the mother that we do ... whether our
relationship be a loving one or an antagonistic one ... there are
infinite things that we have yet to know about Life and our relationship
to It. Let's look at this from the
Book of Ecclesiastes 11:5 once again:
"As thou knowest not
what is the way of the wind, nor how the bones do grow in the womb of
her that is with child; even so thou knowest not the work of God who
There is a joy to be felt in
knowing that G-d has given to us that which is for our highest and
greatest good ... and this includes our mother. Let
us find some way in which we can honor this choice that our mothers made
to bring us into this life, no matter where our mother may be, either
here or in the hereafter, or even if we are not on speaking terms with
her ... let us experience the livingness, the givingness and the
forgivingness of the Spirit that in-dwells us and find our way to show
our gratitude, our love, and our understanding that the choice that our
mother made is an important one for us today and every day.
SO IT IS!
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