is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast; it
is not proud. It is not arrogant or rude, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does
not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all
things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails."
- 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
not only cures and revitalizes the individual's mind and organism; it
proves itself to be the decisive factor of vital, mental, moral, and
social well-being and growth of an individual."
- Pitirim A. Sorokin, Founded
Department of Sociology at Harvard University
One of the wonderful people who
attend my services in Palm Springs forwarded an Op-Ed article to me from
The New York Times titled "The Seat Not Taken" written by John
Edgar Wideman. Mr. Wideman writes about his experience riding a
commuter train from New York City to his teaching job in Providence,
Rhode Island, passing through a region of the country populated by a
significant segment of its most educated, affluent, sophisticated and
enlightened citizens. Mr. Wideman is a man of color, one of few on
the train and often the only one. His article relates how 9 times
out of 10, people will shun a free seat if it means sitting next to him.
And no, this article was not written in 1910, but in 2010.
I felt a certain sadness after reading this article, not because I feel
the people on the train who refused to sit next to Mr. Wideman lacked
the capacity for love ... but because they failed to release the love
from within them and to think beyond the self. What do you imagine
was going through their minds as they observed this man sitting alone?
And why would they withhold their love from him, their kindness, and be
unaware that he was being isolated from them? These weren't
children and as statistics tell us, they were educated, enlightened and
affluent. And this was not a one-time occurrence, but a repetitive
On the same day I received the e-mail link to
the New York Times article I received a letter from a woman in my radio
program audience, asking me to teach about love. She wrote,
"we just don't have enough people that understand what love
is." After reading the article written by Mr. Wideman, I
realized this could very well be true.
When we read: "Love is
patient, love is kind," we realize that the word "is" ...
is the key to this statement. Love "is" always seeking
to be expressed through us, for Love and G-d are synonymous. Dr.
Holmes writes in "Words That Heal Today" that
"Love cannot seek its own as though it were
separated from others. We are universal at the source and any act
which tends to isolate us from our source tends to separate us from our
Divine Nature. Because all are rooted in one life, any attempt to
arrive at a good which is not shared is an attempt to isolate us from
the good itself. It is in this sense that love seeks not its own,
is not puffed up, has no envy and knows no jealousy."
We identify with love when we act
with patience and kindness consciously aware that this is part of our
patience and kindness and holds us in jeopardy of holding envy and
arrogance in our sub-conscious mind. We are not an envious and
boastful people, even when it appears that we are. These things
will never be the truth about us, but are merely a momentary lapse in
being conscious of our true nature. Our decision then is to insure
that these momentary lapses don't become habitual for even though they
are not the truth about us, our sub-conscious mind will receive the
impressions of our thoughts and we will see them out-pictured in our
experience at some point in time. We eliminate the possibility of
these momentary lapses becoming habitual, and I might add, unconscious,
by consciously choosing to be aware of opportunities in which to express
kindness, to offer hope and help others develop faith in themselves.
We can all be more patient with others, with ourselves, and with G-d.
Often people will stop praying because they have lost patience with G-d
... not faith in G-d, but patience because their prayers weren't
answered quickly enough. We don't want to ever be less than
patient with G-d, but we will be if we fail to be patient with others
and with ourselves.
The great revelation we receive from both the
ancient scriptures and the wisdom of Mr. Sorokin, is that we are more
mentally alert, healthier, have greater emotional clarity and are
aligned with the Truth, when we express love. Love is the
givingness of Spirit moving through our hearts and minds. It
cannot be enjoined with anything unlike it. Patience and kindness,
hope and faith, strengthen our body, mind and spirit. When we act
with patience and kindness, the Spirit is moving through not only our
hearts and our minds, but our consciousness as well. We grow
spiritually ... which means we are more in tune with the Power, Presence
and Intelligence of G-d moving through our consciousness enlarging our
capacity to accept more of G-d, and more and more of the good that we
We may have to mentally prompt ourselves
sometimes to remember these things, but as we take every opportunity to
act with patience and kindness, we will be expressing more and more of
our true nature. Patience and kindness enlarge our awareness of
our capacity to love, and it is this willingness to continually expand
our expressions of love that keeps our mind free from discord.
"Love Large" ...
because we can. Act with love, speak with love, let love be fully
expressed through all that we do. We have an infinite capacity to
express love; as affection, as patience, as kindness, as hope, as faith
... as a part of G-d we are compelled to do so. Dr. O. C. Smith
stated often, "love everybody and adore some." And as I
often do, I remind us all that when the Master Mind Jesus stated;
"when you see me, you see the Father" ... this "me"
he was referring to "is" the universal "me" that we
SO IT IS!
Dr. Henry Lee Bates
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